don’t trust any dude who claims all his past girlfriends are ‘crazy psychos’ but that ‘you’re different’
men who are sweet to you
but call women they don’t like wh*res/sluts/bitches/other misogynist terms
also not a fan of the way this shit manifests in subtler ways e.g. ’saw another girl wearing that. it looks better on you’ / ’you’re one of those cool girls’ / ‘you’re smart and pretty… that’s rare’
i have no problem with pointing out that anyone of any gender can be an abuser, rapist, pedophile etc because that’s absolutely true.
but the problem with always emphasizing “yes but it happens to everyone, not just women (or people of colour, or trans* people, etc)!” is that it depoliticizes the issue.
violence is not an accident, it is reflective of social power relations that permeate society at every level
every time someone says this, I want to punch something. admittedly, something like a pillow!
- my sexuality is not treated as legitimate just because straight men want to watch me make-out with my girlfriend! this also happens to lesbian women.
- my sexuality is not treated as legitimate when men think they can fuck me so good I’ll turn straight or at least never want to date another woman. this also happens to lesbian women. this is a scary thing to experience as a woman.
- my sexuality is not treated as legitimate because no queer person’s sexuality is treated as legitimate! so why are you shitting on queer women to make your point about the shit bisexual men experience
people seriously think that you can just leave an abusive relationship, like walk out and it’s over
let’s talk about how one-third of women murdered every year are by an intimate partner. let’s talk about how a woman leaving her batterer is seventy-five percent more likely to be killed.
Disability doesn’t mean “You cannot do X things”. Maybe you can. Maybe you can’t. Maybe you can, weirdly. Maybe you can, and you’re exhausted afterwards. Maybe any combination thereof. This probably won’t be consistent. People aren’t consistent.
bought a treadmill so i can exercise without becoming overly anxious about catcalling/ sexual predators. joyous & grateful
Step One: You can’t
+5 points for the bit about Mia Freedman